Meditation is important to strengthen your capacity to be a True Self Leader, and no it doesn't have to be hard or time consuming.
Ways To Meditate
There are many, many activities that will connect you to your “true and wise Self,” your essence, or what I call your Best Self in IAMX - the core of True Self Leadership:
- A walk in the woods
- A long hot shower
- Writing or journaling
- Playing with children
Any activity you do that helps you connect with your True Self can be meditation.
Bring Awareness To What You're Doing
All of these activities can serve to ‘build the muscle of your connection’ with your essence, but only if you bring that intention to what you’re doing. This intention is often called mindfulness: an awareness of how the experience is enhancing or developing your connection with your life-force energy – which we ALL have and can feel.
After more than 25 years of meditation, and seeing the impact it has had on my life, I strongly recommend that you develop a meditation practice that will allow you to bring mindfulness to every aspect of your life.
The Key is Doable Daily Practice
A daily practice is key: the more you do, a little bit at a time, the better you'll get, and the stronger the connection becomes.
Specifically, I suggest consistency over perfection in your practice. Doing something, anything, daily is more important than a specific form or length of experience.
You will benefit from even 1 or 2 minutes a day of the most basic form of meditation:
- Stop doing anything
- Breathe deeply and relax
- Observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment.
- Bring love and compassion to what you are noticing.
What Happens When You Meditate Correctly?
I recommend a simple practice which will deepen over time, and eventually have a huge impact on your life. How long it takes for you to see results depends on your situation, but you can know that you will:
Anchor into the present moment
You will spend less time in the “guilty past” or in the “fearful future” and spend more time in the present moment, where you have access to the life-force energy that is you, tapped into the infinite loving abundance that is the substance of your essence and Life.
This energy is the source of your personal power or ability to create your life exactly as you want or (often) better. The present moment is your opportunity to fully enjoy what you are experiencing - NOW.
Develop your 'observer Self'
When you sit quietly and become aware of the landscape of your internal experience, you begin to distinguish between the part of you that is watching, and the part of you that is taking action. Space is created between your ‘observer Self’ and the experience of something, and then the choices you make.
Instead of being consumed or pushed around by ‘what happens,’ you will instead observe the activity and realize that you have the time and space to make a variety of choices that will shape the quality of your experiences.
Eventually, you realize that this ‘observer Self’ is your true wise and compassionate Self or your Best Self and when you make choices from this part of yourself, you’re acting from your personal power. You will make choices and decisions that are true to your Self AND are congruent with what you want – claiming your healthy power in the process.
Build your IAMX identity
When you meditate you notice your thoughts, feelings, and sensations. As you develop your ‘observer Self’ you will learn to distinguish between thoughts, feelings, and sensations that come from Drama (danger, fear, doubt, and scarcity) and those that come from your Best Self (love, confidence, and abundance).
A common practice is to notice your fearful thoughts and say to yourself, “I am not fear. I am experiencing fear” or “fear is arising”.
You can then anchor more deeply into your essence by saying to yourself “I am infinite loving abundance” or whatever affirmation works for you.
Using this practice over time disconnects your identity from your Drama self or small ego, and reconnects your identity with your IAMX or Best Self – the higher potential version of yourself.
Reduce your stress
The more you identify with your Best Self, the less you will react to Drama which causes unnecessary stress and suffering.
The more you identify with your Best Self, the more you can be with Drama (yours and others) with wisdom and compassion.
The more you meditate, the easier it is for your body to return to a relaxed state following a stressful event.
Ultimately you will lower the adrenaline and cortisol (fight or flight hormones) coursing through your body. The negative impact of these stress hormones has been found to include: impaired cognitive function, high blood pressure, suppressed immune response, and endocrine system imbalances.
Meditation creates a healthier balance between all of the organs and systems of your body so your normal life-force energy can flow freely, and like a scab forms on a wound - naturally allow healing.
What Are the Benefits of Meditating?
Given that you meditate consistently and correctly, I have discovered the following benefits, which I know you can experience as well:
- You become aware of what you experience instead of being numb
- You identify with your powerful, abundant, Best Self
- You eventually are no longer controlled by obsessive and fearful thoughts
- You experience calm and centered confidence
- You learn to choose thoughts and beliefs that create what you want
- You make decisions that are right and good for you and others
- You better handle fear, doubt, and scarcity because you are connected with your Best Self
- You know what you want and like because you notice what feels good
- You experience more emotions, both positive and negative
- As you have more feelings, you develop your internal navigation system
- Your best and wise Self is more engaged in your experiences
- Happiness and joy emerge, which are aspects of your true nature
- You are less reactive and more creative, resourceful, and innovative
- You experience your abundant Self, and abundant prosperity
- You are healthier, smarter, and more resilient
- You feel more powerful and in control of your life
And this list is only the beginning! I could keep going on and on.
Multiple Intelligence Capacity
You might notice that these benefits include aspects of your mental, spiritual, emotional, AND physical self. Most professional development focuses solely on expanding your mental abilities. Meditation creates space for all of your intelligences to develop.
This multiple intelligence capacity is sometimes called "whole person" intelligence or capacity. Accessing your "whole self" is critical to True Self Leadership because of the mental clarity, emotional stability, intuition, and physical resilience that comes from tapping into multiple aspects of your True Self.
Traditional development that focus mainly on mental capacities and leaves you vulnerable to the shadow aspects of yourself: your fears, doubts, and anxieties. When these aspects are suppressed, they emerge in unexpected and problematic ways.
With True Self Leadership, your shadow parts are leveraged to grow your capacity to be whole and healthy!
With meditation, you notice your thoughts. With awareness of your thoughts, you can choose which thoughts are useful or not.
With meditation, you notice your feelings. With awareness of your feelings, you can fine tune the quality of the energy you are investing. For example, your emotional energy can be either urgent and anxious, or calm, centered, and filled with passion. You decide what's best.
With meditation, you create space to use your thoughts and feelings in more powerful ways to fuel your efforts. You'll make better choices in navigating your way to your goals.
What I'm describing here are the personal characteristics involved with being strategic...
With meditation, you will become more strategic.
Every Day Mindfulness
With a consistent daily practice, any and all of your life activities will become more mindful: infused with calm, clear, confident, and courageous awareness.
You too will experience these benefits of meditation when you remember to make use of the connection you are establishing with your Best Self essence throughout the day.
There is no magic pill that will you get you there. Only consistent daily practice.
Even better, when mindfulness is combined with other spiritual practices such as affirmations, guided imagery, exercise, music/dance, sex, play, or time in nature, the benefits are even greater.
Because I know the benefits and impact of meditation are so important, I’ve collaborated with several people to combine meditation and affirmations for the beginner OR experienced practitioner...
A resource that will support you in developing a daily practice AND bringing more of your Best Self to both work and life.
You can find out more here:
Right now, I’d like to know…
Do you meditate? What benefits have you experienced? If you don’t meditate, are you more motivated to meditate now? What’s stopping you from meditating?